From now on, brothers and sisters, if anything is excellent and if anything is admirable, focus your thoughts on these things: all that is true, all that is holy, all that is just, all that is pure, all that is lovely, and all that is worthy of praise.
A positive mindset really is a choice and it is something that I believe has to be renewed every day.
It is so easy to get caught up in the negative thoughts when things aren't going our way. Getting an autoimmune diagnosis is one of the things that I could choose to spend my time thinking about in a negative way. It can be very easy to get depressed with thoughts about living with an autoimmune disorder. I could choose to spend my time thinking about these things:
- What will my life look like five or ten years from now?
- Is my health going to deteriorate rapidly or slowly?
- Will I be able to continue doing all of things I can do right now?
- Is there really no cure for what I have?
- How will this affect my husband and family?
I do not believe we are to bury our head in the sand and live like nothing has changed. Autoimmune disorders are serious and they should be looked at in a serious way. Once you have asked yourself questions like the ones I have listed above, and thought them through, don't dwell on them.
The scriptures tell us: Therefore, stop worrying about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:34 Ain't that the truth? Today will have it's own set of challenges, so we should not add to them by dwelling on the negative.
When you have a negative thought come into your mind, ask yourself these three questions:
- Where does this thought come from?
- Where will this thought lead me?
- Will this thought get me to where I want to go?
These are the things that I have chosen to focus on:
- I am blessed to work with horses.
- I am blessed to work outside where I can view the beauty of the mornings with God's favorite colors lighting up the sky.
- I am determined to do everything I can to live a healthy and productive life.
- I will always be truthful with my husband about how my body is being affected by my autoimmune disorders.
- I will answer honestly when I am asked about my health in an upbeat way. I will never have a "woe is me" attitude.
- I am bless to have a husband who loves me and accepts me with all of my flaws and disorders.
- I'm going to remember that my flares come to pass they do not come to stay.
- I'm gonna dwell on everything good!
When do negative thoughts enter in?
There are certain times of the day when negative thoughts enter my mind. They are always when I'm alone and when I am not distracted. I find the best defense is to listen to music that is uplifting and audio books that are on topics that interest me. These two things can keep my mind working in an effective way so that my thoughts are focused on the positive.
When is my best time to dwell on the positive?
I have mentioned in other posts that I have horses. I have two of the most beautiful draft horses. Their names are April and May. They are half sisters. These two girls are a great source of joy to me. It's because of them that I believe that I am so healthy.
One thing you don't know is that my work at the ranch consists of shoveling horse poop! I shovel a lot of it. I shovel enough each year to fill ten to twenty semi-trucks. I have the arms and the shoulders to prove it. While I'm shoveling this is the best time to work on my mindset and to listen to great books and music. Not only do they help pass the time, but I find that my attitude is so much better. I have a better outlook on everything when I can think things through with clarity and without distraction.
Action step: When do you find the negative thoughts creeping in and when is the best time for you to focus on changing your mindset. Please leave your comments below.